What are some examples of these clauses, if you don't mind sharing them? Presumably you don't actually ask for brown M&Ms, but rather for something technical and infeasible.
for example, the right to audit their premises at our convenience and their expense without giving notice.
There is a legit requirement for us to be able to audit, but placing the other conditions on it makes it, at the very least, unreasonable but the "without notice" bit means that if they agree to it we have can disrupt their business at our leisure (since an audit requires their resources to conduct too).
another example is requesting infeasible levels of application logging, insane retention periods, and onerous evidence that they're acting on that information.