I find the first author's comment a bit funny. Not because of her decision to not have children, but because of the reasons.
- Diapers, Soccer Games, Braces, Tantrums. -
Those are pretty poor reasons to me.
A good reason to me is "I am fulfilled doing what I do and have no reason to want children" or even "I have never wanted to have kids"
But the way she writes, it sounds like she actually really wanted children, but was afraid that they would tie her down too much, ruin her life, and make her do icky things like change diapers, and make her feel uncomfortable when they threw tantrums. Her response to getting her tubes tied was "Freedom." as though there was this specter of child-rearing that she was so afraid of. Her followup states that she is afraid she would have been a bad mother anyways so it was probably for the best.
As someone else said, the decision should be to have kids, not deciding to not have kids. But the first author sounds more like she wanted kids but was afraid, regrets the decision and is spending her time trying to justify, to herself, that decision to get her tubes tied back at 30 now that she is getting to the point of no return.
Second author would have sounded a lot better if he had written it in the first person instead of second person. He's describing his experience, not mine. It's pretty presumptuous to tell me how I feel, or will feel.
- Diapers, Soccer Games, Braces, Tantrums. -
Those are pretty poor reasons to me.
A good reason to me is "I am fulfilled doing what I do and have no reason to want children" or even "I have never wanted to have kids"
But the way she writes, it sounds like she actually really wanted children, but was afraid that they would tie her down too much, ruin her life, and make her do icky things like change diapers, and make her feel uncomfortable when they threw tantrums. Her response to getting her tubes tied was "Freedom." as though there was this specter of child-rearing that she was so afraid of. Her followup states that she is afraid she would have been a bad mother anyways so it was probably for the best.
As someone else said, the decision should be to have kids, not deciding to not have kids. But the first author sounds more like she wanted kids but was afraid, regrets the decision and is spending her time trying to justify, to herself, that decision to get her tubes tied back at 30 now that she is getting to the point of no return.
Second author would have sounded a lot better if he had written it in the first person instead of second person. He's describing his experience, not mine. It's pretty presumptuous to tell me how I feel, or will feel.