I'm a first generation American (parents immigrated) and my wife and I are currently raising our daughter in the US, and so I think I have both an American and non-American perspective to some extent. (warning: this is based on a data point of 1)
First, I do think American kids are spoiled (and I prob am spoiling my daughter no matter my desire not to). I don't think this is an American thing necessarily and prob more of a wealth/prosperity/Maslow's hierarchy thing.
My parents were the typical immigrant story. They came here with nothing, knew nobody and so they worked to make it. There wasn't time to "find oneself" or just do what makes you happy or to read about how to parent in some magazine. And so the ethos in our house was you work hard and you get what you deserve as a result. There was no tolerance for whining, entitlement and tantrums and there was an appreciation for what we had that was instilled in us. For example, I was told to only take as much as food I could eat at dinner and that I could not get up until I finished every bit of food I chose to take. I would fall asleep at the table some times eating cold food 3 hours afterwards. Not fun at the time, but there was to be an appreciation for how fortunate we are. Some might view this as draconian but it's now somewhat oddly a fond memory of mine from childhood.
But I think scarcity of resources (translation: not being wealthy/materially prosperous) doesn't allow one to be spoiled and gives one perspective which is often what seems to be lost.
Now I fast forward to today, and I see tons of parenting advice which almost tries to make parenting a paint by numbers effort, a kids culture of "everybody is a winner" and conspicuous consumption (bigger bday parties, expensive strollers, etc) that suggest to folks that good parenting is possible out of a book of academic studies, is driven by always being encouraging and giving your kid material crap. And its this cocktail of things that seems to lead to spoiled kids.
This is a stream-of-consciousness rant so apologies for that.
First, I do think American kids are spoiled (and I prob am spoiling my daughter no matter my desire not to). I don't think this is an American thing necessarily and prob more of a wealth/prosperity/Maslow's hierarchy thing.
My parents were the typical immigrant story. They came here with nothing, knew nobody and so they worked to make it. There wasn't time to "find oneself" or just do what makes you happy or to read about how to parent in some magazine. And so the ethos in our house was you work hard and you get what you deserve as a result. There was no tolerance for whining, entitlement and tantrums and there was an appreciation for what we had that was instilled in us. For example, I was told to only take as much as food I could eat at dinner and that I could not get up until I finished every bit of food I chose to take. I would fall asleep at the table some times eating cold food 3 hours afterwards. Not fun at the time, but there was to be an appreciation for how fortunate we are. Some might view this as draconian but it's now somewhat oddly a fond memory of mine from childhood.
But I think scarcity of resources (translation: not being wealthy/materially prosperous) doesn't allow one to be spoiled and gives one perspective which is often what seems to be lost.
Now I fast forward to today, and I see tons of parenting advice which almost tries to make parenting a paint by numbers effort, a kids culture of "everybody is a winner" and conspicuous consumption (bigger bday parties, expensive strollers, etc) that suggest to folks that good parenting is possible out of a book of academic studies, is driven by always being encouraging and giving your kid material crap. And its this cocktail of things that seems to lead to spoiled kids.
This is a stream-of-consciousness rant so apologies for that.