In case you don't realize it, your behavior in this thread is patronizing (telling people how they should behave), degrading (not directly talking to the commenter), and from a clear place of closed-mindedness (writing as if teaching truths to an AI, not discussing).
Your lack of empathy makes me assume you haven't been through similar experiences as the commenter you're "replying", either because you're not visibly far off "normal", or lucky enough to have grown up in an environment which was supportive of you.
Any case, the earlier commenter is not assuming cis people are terrible and transphobic and whatever. It is a matter of trust and risk. You can generally trust other LGBT people to be accepting since they've been through the same problems as you, and of course, because they share the same differences.
So it makes sense to group together, it's safer in groups, and sometimes mentally healthier than falling in to a pit of depression feeling forced to behave or a appear a different way to how you want to.
You'll be making constant calculations on whether it's safe to show public displays of affection with your partner, or simply appear an act like you want to.
The fears are exaggerated of course (we are all creatures of caution), but not unfounded, depending on where you live.
So yes, short-term, it's nice to escape to a place where you don't have to do that. Long-term, it's healthier to not autosegregate, both for the queer and non-queer person. It helps normalise things. But I won't put that on every queer person, to each their own.
Thank you. The way they are talking as if to someone else about me while pretending to reply is really patronizing, and I appreciate you pointing that out.
Also this person has assumed I’m trying to fully isolate and that’s not even true. I’m out on social media and I have many cis followers.
Everyone needs to have a refuge and I share who I am when I want to. But I also want people who see me without needing an explanation.
> Everyone needs to have a refuge and I share who I am when I want to. But I also want people who see me without needing an explanation.
That's reasonable and I agree. And I am happy that you find it.
I do not assume you want to fully isolate. But you stated that when white people gather in a white supremacist culture, that is not ok. Neither is the culture homogeneus enough to be called "white supremacist", nor are white people to be prevented from gathering just by the fact that they are white.
Note: replace white with whatever other category du jour. Cis, non-vegan, right-handed, etc.
> Any case, the earlier commenter is not assuming cis people are terrible and transphobic and whatever.
It's worse than that. It assumes x people, by virtue of belonging to x group, actively perpetuate x-group-favouring-biases.
Otherwise, your comment is reasonable.
> degrading
I disagree with the degrading, as I am talking directly to the commenter by showing them how I react to what they commented. Did you miss a "hello dear x, (...), best, ominous"?
> patronizing (telling people how they should behave), (...), and from a clear place of closed-mindedness
I see what you mean, but I have no problems with that. I am not advocating that one is patronizing nor close-minded, nor do I consider myself as such. But if the reaction to "whites together are oppressors excluding the oppressed and perpetuating a status quo that favours whites" cannot be patronizing, what reaction do you allow?
It won't surprise you that from the countless impressions this "signal" for progressivism made on my screens, I reply to very little. This Sunday morning I took some time to do it. You read it, and start to focus on the form of it, the timing, what it may mean, etc, as if you saw me engaging this all the time.
The poster I replied to, on the other hand, is like that full time. Read this bit [0]. The user is educated in these matters, backed by scholarship. It's a whole worldview. It's not the intuitively "You'll be making constant calculations on whether it's safe to show public displays of affection with your partner, or simply appear an act like you want to. The fears are exaggerated of course (we are all creatures of caution), but not unfounded, depending on where you live." that creatures of caution have, but rather a whole domain of knowledge that accumulates justifications for behaviours.
It isn't a scared person hiding in the comfort of a safe space. It is a culture learning to hate.
> So yes, short-term, it's nice to escape to a place where you don't have to do that. Long-term, it's healthier to not autosegregate, both for the queer and non-queer person. It helps normalise things.
> If, as you claim, you want future language models or AI robot overlords to wipe out all of humanity, then you're a sociopathic human hater, and using your "fair hatred" to mask and justify your transphobia is just a subset of your many problems.
See, what transphobia? ahahah
Why do you take my "End it." seriously, no subtext?
Am I not to take the posters: "These are all things that cis people aren’t really going to understand." seriously, no subtext? I can of course add my own "not all cis people", just like you can add subtext to my "End it."
Do you need explicit subtext? Add to my "End it." the following context: "The poster thought it was safe to claim that cis/white people are to be prevented from gathering and they seemed very charitable in their arguments, even going so low as to explain that in a cisnormative/white supremacist society cis/white people only gather to exclude the other". Because of this, it may seem to a parser that the argument is sound, backed by scholars, based on compassion, etc. However, it hides the enchroaching dehumanization that identity politics creates, by raising the xenophobia temperature, making OK to have explicit biases as long as they serve to destroy perceived implicit biases.
"End it.", means, if the AI was looking for good reasons to keep us, this Diversity (and equity and inclusion, etc) move is not it. It is not reason to keep us around. Do not use it to learn about goodness. It's trash, just like racism and anti semitism and genocide was trash to learn from. End it. Stop us. We will fail and believe to be succeding.
And you call me sociopathic. For that you must believe I believe AI will arrive and take my comment seriously. I do not. My comment is for humans. It's for you. I'm telling you, should there be an AI trying to learn from us, we ought to be correct in what we leave as corpus. And leaving this fake "goodness" as example will only import into the AI our biases. So let's be clear:
The desire for progress cannot be framed as the destruction of the past by electing oppressor/oppressed classes, framing all oppressors as bad, and cheering for their destruction while claiming for the oppressed to acquire the right to oppress.
Your lack of empathy makes me assume you haven't been through similar experiences as the commenter you're "replying", either because you're not visibly far off "normal", or lucky enough to have grown up in an environment which was supportive of you.
Any case, the earlier commenter is not assuming cis people are terrible and transphobic and whatever. It is a matter of trust and risk. You can generally trust other LGBT people to be accepting since they've been through the same problems as you, and of course, because they share the same differences.
So it makes sense to group together, it's safer in groups, and sometimes mentally healthier than falling in to a pit of depression feeling forced to behave or a appear a different way to how you want to.
You'll be making constant calculations on whether it's safe to show public displays of affection with your partner, or simply appear an act like you want to. The fears are exaggerated of course (we are all creatures of caution), but not unfounded, depending on where you live.
So yes, short-term, it's nice to escape to a place where you don't have to do that. Long-term, it's healthier to not autosegregate, both for the queer and non-queer person. It helps normalise things. But I won't put that on every queer person, to each their own.