And the fact that the community and tooling surrounding MySQL is absolutely bonkers massive. It's not that the grass has been trodden down to a path; no there's a 6 lane highway with a rest area and a Cracker Barrel.
The one thing that I've learned recently which surprised me- if you want to cluster MySQL (via partitioned tables or PlanetScale, etc) you cannot use foreign keys.
Some of the Postgres compatible tooling (Citus, Cockroach, etc) appears to support foreign keys across partitions / shards.
I was quite surprised to see this. Makes sense that not allowing FKs makes the data easier to shard but I never imagined that would be a thing you would have to contend with.
I also ran into this recently when looking at SingleStore! I was surprised when they told me I couldn't use foreign keys, and was even more surprised that they were surprised that I do use foreign keys. They acted like I was the only one. And to be fair, given their clientele, I might be the only one!
At "scale" you just can't afford to use FK, it's indeed slowing down everything and preventing good and fast clustering / replication. For some use cases you just have to live with it
Yup for sure, that's what they were saying. It makes sense, but I was still surprised by it. I've never had to manage something at this scale before, so it was news to me.
For reference, we're at about 250 million rows, so not even proper "scale" scale!
