> * Kids will resent any attempt to limit their access, and
> * Kids are NSA-level hackers who will circumvent any attempt at limiting their access.
There's plenty of people in their mid-20s now on HN who have been the kids, either working around their parents restrictions or their friends parents restrictions. I had an internet enabled phone as a 12 year old in 2004, so it's not a post-iPhone kid experience only.
And yes, parental control software has got smarter to not just be a matter of changing your DNS or using an alternative browser, but tunneling over SSH still defeats much of it, and yes the audience here is more tech savvy, but there's a hundred new web based proxies that open up every day that your chosen solution may not be up to date on blocking - whitelists avoid that but it's something a lot of people here are opposed to on moral grounds once kids reach a certain age. Certainly if you let them go out unsupervised that's not enforcable, and honestly you should be able to let a 12 year old go out unsupervised.
To what extent this applies to 12 year olds is to be determined in my case. My kids are younger than that
I think a lot of the "try and restrict and you'll just harm your relationship" stuff comes from 20 somethings whose memories are primarily of their teenage years. There's 12 years before you get to twelve, and we're in a situation where clueless parents are allowing (knowingly or not) their preteen kids to have their own youtube channels and watch Squid Game. (And much worse besides no doubt, those are just a couple of things I know particular kids have been doing.)
> * Kids are NSA-level hackers who will circumvent any attempt at limiting their access.
There's plenty of people in their mid-20s now on HN who have been the kids, either working around their parents restrictions or their friends parents restrictions. I had an internet enabled phone as a 12 year old in 2004, so it's not a post-iPhone kid experience only.
And yes, parental control software has got smarter to not just be a matter of changing your DNS or using an alternative browser, but tunneling over SSH still defeats much of it, and yes the audience here is more tech savvy, but there's a hundred new web based proxies that open up every day that your chosen solution may not be up to date on blocking - whitelists avoid that but it's something a lot of people here are opposed to on moral grounds once kids reach a certain age. Certainly if you let them go out unsupervised that's not enforcable, and honestly you should be able to let a 12 year old go out unsupervised.