Although I believe it’s best for the family to have the father take some time (as much as they can!), I think it’s sort of no ones business if he chooses to take time and how much time he takes. If you’re not getting 100% of your pay then there could be situations where that creates financial stress for example.
So maybe it doesn’t mean you don’t want to do it but simply can’t afford to do it.
> So maybe it doesn’t mean you don’t want to do it but simply can’t afford to do it.
That would of course be an acceptable excuse. I meant that for my particular situation since my peers know I can afford it, they would also know I chose not to because I dind't want to (not acceptable), or because I felt my career would suffer (not acceptable).
So maybe it doesn’t mean you don’t want to do it but simply can’t afford to do it.