I spent several years working with elementary-aged kids in our church. For one whole year, it was me and another dad with a class of a dozen or so 5 year olds. (We're all background-checked, for what little that's worth. We also have child protection guidelines to follow - foremost of which is to never be alone with a kid and no other adult.)
It was amazing to see the reactions of moms dropping off their kids when they realized it was just us. Only once did I get asked "is there going to be a mom here with you?" but I know it was in a lot of their minds. But I never had one refuse to leave their kid with us. Over the years I've had plenty of moms eventually tell me how glad they were to see men working with kids.
I did get a chance for 2 years to run more "boy-friendly" activities at church. We did mock camp-outs, blanket forts, went outside for classes whenever the weather and sunlight allowed, and even had campfires outside during what otherwise would have been time spent sitting around a table trying to pay attention. Boys don't work well indoors trying to sit still and pay attention. They really do absorb more if they're outside and their hands are busy.
I even got to work with a special-needs girl that was horribly abused by her birth parents. (I'd happily beat her birth parents within an inch of their lives and worse if I ever met them.) In two years she went from screaming fits if an adult even accidently touched her arm to the point that she'd walk up and hug me. I was honored to be a small part of her recovery.
It was amazing to see the reactions of moms dropping off their kids when they realized it was just us. Only once did I get asked "is there going to be a mom here with you?" but I know it was in a lot of their minds. But I never had one refuse to leave their kid with us. Over the years I've had plenty of moms eventually tell me how glad they were to see men working with kids.
I did get a chance for 2 years to run more "boy-friendly" activities at church. We did mock camp-outs, blanket forts, went outside for classes whenever the weather and sunlight allowed, and even had campfires outside during what otherwise would have been time spent sitting around a table trying to pay attention. Boys don't work well indoors trying to sit still and pay attention. They really do absorb more if they're outside and their hands are busy.
I even got to work with a special-needs girl that was horribly abused by her birth parents. (I'd happily beat her birth parents within an inch of their lives and worse if I ever met them.) In two years she went from screaming fits if an adult even accidently touched her arm to the point that she'd walk up and hug me. I was honored to be a small part of her recovery.